Give voice to her pain!

In a country where they call her “Ghar ki Lakshmi’’: The Goddess who graces a home, the scars paint another picture for women! Even though we celebrate the sanctity of marriage, one in every five women has been a victim of domestic violence in India.

India ranks in the top 10 countries where women face the most domestic violence. A position we should be ashamed of.

Despite domestic violence recognised as a specific criminal offence almost four decades ago  over 185312 cases of crime against women were reported in 2007. Out of which 75,930 cases were of cruelty against women by their own husbands and relatives.

This implies, that there is one case of abuse every three minutes.  It’s surprising how soon, someone who should be celebrated and revered is so easily disgraced at her own home.

India is a patriarchal society, where men, or in this case the husband’s family  are generally considered  superior .Usually the abuser tries to gain complete authority and control, and when denied or resisted, resorts to violence and abuse.

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The pattern to violent /abusive behaviour :

The details may differ in every case, but the sadistic intentions remain the same. The abuser may act violently and use verbal or physical abuse. But may soon feel guilty about his actions. He may then find excuses to justify his actions. Soon he accepts the excuses as the truth and he may find the abusive bursts as normal behaviour. He may continue having assumptions about the victim, and may think of imaginary accusations to make. He may find the victim guilty and untrustworthy and may start living a fantasy. Now he will do all he can, to implicate and find proof of this imaginary accusation and in this process try to set-up or catch his victim red handed.

The victims suffer in silence:

Well, most often, the victim may want the abuse to end but not the relationship itself. They might be unaware of the services available to help them. They might feel ashamed and embarrassed about the situation. They might feel that the world will judge them and stigmatize them for what happened. May be financially dependant on the abuser, be hopeful that the abuser will change or stop the abuse. Have religious or social beliefs that reinforce staying with the abuser as the right way.

And bearing the weight of this social and moral dilemma, the victim may chose to remain silent.

There is hope!

The abuser continues justifying his actions, and the victim continues to accept the abuse helplessly.A vicious vicious cycle! But with a few well-informed and empowered measures, the victim can hope for a better future. Firstly the signs of abusive behaviour should be recognised by the victim. As per The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 Domestic violence includes actual or threatened abuse against women in their homes, including those of a physical, sexual, verbal, emotional or economic nature. If the behaviour continues to persist, the victim must seek out help.

The PWDV 2005, says that the affected women are entitled to: Protection, Residence, Monetary Relief and Maintenance, Compensation, Custody and Legal Service under the provisions .There are government help-lines set up to report abuse .

Maitri India is one such organization that works for women who are at the risk of facing gender- based violence. Maitri has the unique distinction of being one of the few NGO’s that is preventing and reducing violence against women in the uniformed services, including the army, navy, air force, para-military and police in India. Maitri conducts gender sensitisation and training workshops for officers, men and families. The workshops sensitise and create awareness of VAWthat enables participants to take preventive measures for happier and healthier families.

Our duty last at the least is to stand up against such violence. The victim may be your neighbour, your colleague, your friend or maybe a person who you are not very close to. If you see it happen, do not turn a blind eye. Help Maitri voice their cries.

Donate here  https://www.impactguru.com/maitri-reduce-gender-based-violence-in-urban-communities

 

 

A quick 2 minute #coffeewithCEO rapid fire with Dr HUZ!

“The mission of my life is twofold, one to improve quality of life, and the other to improve quality of thought. And to realize this dual mission, I formed Wockhardt Foundation” says Dr. Huzaifa Khorakiwala.

Not only does Dr. Huz (Dr. Huzaifa Khorakiwala) head the non-profit organization, Wockhardt Foundation which runs several programmes in health, education, water and sanitation across the breadth of the country, but he is also the Executive Director of Wockhardt Limited and part of the promoter family of Wockhardt Group – a leading pharmaceutical and healthcare group.

Dr. Huz is a graduate of prestigious Yale MBA program. And has won numerous awards and is associated with many social causes. He is also the founder of “The World Peacekeepers Movement”, an online movement comprising of more than a million peacekeepers, forming the world’s 3rd largest army.

We caught up with him for a quick 2 minute #coffeewithCEO rapid fire QnA:

1.Impact Guru: What social goal do you want to achieve from your various initiatives?

Dr. Huz: To bring healthcare to the underprivileged and unreached

2.Impact Guru: What values drive you as a person?

Dr. Huz: To be happy and bring happiness to others and profit with values and joy

3.Impact Guru: I’m sure your supporters want to know your favourite vacation spot?

Dr. Huz: Swiss Alps

4.Impact Guru: And, your favourite music genre?

Dr. Huz: Anything soulful

5.Impact Guru: Do you prefer Cricket or Football?

Dr. Huz: Cricket!

6.Impact Guru: We know you’re a foodie, what’s your favourite guilty pleasure?

Dr. Huz: Pani Puri

7.Impact Guru: And, favourite drink?

Dr. Huz: Fresh Lime Soda

8.Impact Guru: You inspire many, but who do you admire and look up to?

Dr. Huz: Mahatma Gandhi

You can meet Dr. Huz in person and get your questions about life, entrepreneurship and leadership answered. Here’s your chance to have #CoffeewithCEO by simply supporting his cause: just donate to participate in the lucky draw or bid the highest amount to get a sure shot chance to meet him.

To participate in ‪#‎CoffeeWithCEO, click here: impactguru.com/meetdrhuz

This Diwali, let’s do things differently

Every Diwali, we end up doing the same things: the customary Diwali puja, firecracker light show, card parties, lavish dinners, sending gifts to loved ones, indulging in a LOT of sweets, and yes, cleaning your home among other things!

This Diwali, however, we dare you make a difference to someone else’s life! Yes, trust us there are many who could use a little love and support.

Here are five easy ways to light up someone’s life this Diwali:

1. Instead of discarding your old clothes/household items DONATE THEM! That outfit from last season that does not fit you, it will bring a smile on someone’s face.

2. Instead of buying diyas/gifts from your neighborhood store, buy them from an NGO!  Here are two such NGOs who make products we love! http://www.kshitij-mumbai.org/ http://www.adaptssi.org/

3. Light up someone’s life- LITERALLY! You can volunteer with NGO’s that distribute solar lanterns among the poor (be it even one lantern and one home.) One such campaign you can support is Project Chirag– http://www.projectchirag.com/. You could volunteer at an NGO for one weekend or simply clean up the cracker mess in your building/locality! Yes, clearing up the Diwali mess for your building caretaker will bring a smile on his/her face, even better, leave a happy Diwali note after you do. :)

4. Donate the profits you earn from card parties to an NGO or buy something for the poor. Yes, all that money you earned during your card parties, DONATE IT! The feeling we assure you is PRICELESS.

5. Teach something to the underprivileged, it could be something like choreography on the latest Bollywood hit or an instrument you play. And if you have to burst crackers, burst it with the underprivileged who do not enjoy these luxuries.

You will remember this Diwali for the rest of your life, we promise you that!